Note from March 2013: This is the biography I wrote in 2007, just after moving to Colorado. I need to update it! :) Stay tuned.
Hi. I'm Ruth Rinehart.
I think my small contribution to the world will be to help divorcing and divorced parents step back, take a deep breath, and see how to make some small changes that will make a big difference to their children.
I spent five and a half years working as a paralegal in family law in Texas. While helping clients through divorce, custody battles, fights over child support and visitation, I was able to see first-hand how difficult it is for parents to stay focused on their children, instead of remaining embroiled in the fight with the other parent. I was able to see how the concept of The Three Trusts™ directly benefited parents in their day-to-day dealings with their children and the other parent. I truly believe that the best way to help the children in these situations is to work with their parents; the children themselves have so little control over what is going on, and they are so deeply affected by conflict between their parents. (The added benefit to the parent is that THEIR life is greatly enhanced as well -- reduced conflict and better relationships are the natural result.)
My personal experience is unusual. I have been through two divorces, and am now very happily married, in a 14-year relationship with the father of my youngest daughter. My oldest daughter came to live with me when she was two; it wasn't until she was 11 that I was able to adopt her. I have experienced the threat of a custody battle (it never went to court), step-parenting my former spouse's children; my husband step-parented my oldest daughter. The divorce that included the threat of a custody battle was horrible, and I saw how a child can be used as a weapon. It was that experience that gave me tremendous insight into how difficult it is to keep the child's best interest in mind, to stay out of the power struggle.
I was very fortunate to have a loved one, a dear confidant, who was able to keep me focused on what was best for my daughter, in spite of how difficult the divorce was. I didn't need the common advice of some friends, who would "support" me in being "right." I needed someone who could see how unfair it all was, AND how I needed to take the high road in spite of how difficult it was.
And so, I know personally how parents in these situations need some help. I could not have done it without someone outside of myself being available to help me with these difficult issues.
It is the combination of this personal experience and the years of working as a paralegal in family law, as well as common sense informed with a spiritual perspective, that crystallized my thinking regarding The Three Trusts™. I have seen it help. I have seen it transform relationships.
For those parents who need help during and after their divorce, I hope to provide the extra support they need as they navigate the transition beyond the divorce, into their new life, giving them tools that will hasten their recovery, and that of their children.
My volunteer hours include working as the Communications Coordinator for Colorado Conflict Resolution Month, and helping in a myriad of ways at Compass Montessori school in Golden.
My Bachelor of Science in Liberal Studies was conferred by Excelsior College in 2005. I am currently pursuing a Master of Arts in Transpersonal Studies from Atlantic University. The MA track is Leadership and Conflict Transformation, and is expected to be conferred in Spring 2011.